turns boys into men. Does this mean a redefinition of malehood?  I suppose this is obvious.  Can it come from the men themselves?  Or does it, will it come from a step back, an opening on their part (fearlessness) allowing themselves true interaction with/from women and children?  And the will, or maybe just a setting of intention to open for the possible having finally understood how little emotional sustenance lies on their beaten to dust paths.  Once the opening begins it will gather meaning to itself.  This takes trust. And much rigorous honesty.

The sex part of turns boys into men. Why is women’s ability to vessel life so frightening?  With genetic tracking it can't rationally any longer be about securing paternal certainty.  Another foundation theme of the Male Narrative that's about their desire not ours. Religious orthodoxy's misconception that women must be punished for stirring up men's desire. That sex = sin (a twisted notion that creating life is an evil) when really it's just about loss of control.  In that tricky flipping way women are framed as "the seducers" when it's men's thing. And it reduces Eros (the life force) only to sex (in a try at containment) when actually the life force is everywhere around us all the time. 

And this narrative containment amputates the men's growth too.  The rutted imagery stuck in the reproductive stage of life, even into very old age in the misguided conception that sexual activity itself equals life force, being young etc. etc. etc. prevents in men the natural transformations and gifted revelations of aging.

And of course, as a consequence, because we are not separate, women are all messed up on the issue too. return